by Alisa Kriegel ‧ RELEASE DATE: yesterday
A titillating memoir that prioritizes candor over craft.
An explicit recounting of a woman’s journey to sexual reawakening.
Psychologist Kriegel moves “out of the therapist’s chair and into the hot seat” in this memoir about her personal mission to rediscover her sexuality after a near-sexless 25-year marriage. The book opens on 49-year-old Kriegel in the middle of a group sex session. She then backtracks to her upbringing in a conservative New Jersey suburb, where she felt out of place as a Jewish tomboy. At 22, she married her college boyfriend, Robert. The pain Kriegel felt during sex diminished the married couple’s physical connection, but their friendship sustained them. The couple’s son, Leo, was born on their 18th anniversary. Six years later, Robert revealed he was in love with a man. Kriegel and Robert stayed married and continued cohabiting, though Kriegel felt “lost and alone.” She began studying her menstrual cycle, taking hula hoop classes, and flirting with a young male server. She soon ventured into online dating and became increasingly bold in her sexuality, experimenting with BDSM, swinging, and sex with a woman, among other acts. She also endured the downsides of dating, like dishonest married men, being ghosted, and contracting an STI. Sex was no longer enough; she wanted love, too. She eventually moved into her own apartment and found a boyfriend, embracing love and sex in a more open-minded way. In this racy tell-all book, Kriegel lays bare her sex life, bluntly cataloging a wide array of erotic experiences with language like, “When I finally came, she looked up at me with a huge smile as she licked the cum off her lips and announced proudly, ‘mission accomplished.’” Reproducing text messages verbatim enhances the book’s voyeuristic vibe. Those unacquainted with modern dating or craving sexual novelty will experience vicarious thrills through Kriegel’s sexcapades; however, the unadorned prose offers little pleasure for memoir connoisseurs. Sensory details beyond the sex scenes are sorely lacking, leaving readers with generic descriptions like, “He was friendly, attractive and casually dressed in jeans and a T-shirt.”
A titillating memoir that prioritizes candor over craft.Pub Date: yesterday
ISBN: 9798896360063
Page Count: 256
Publisher: She Writes Press
Review Posted Online: Sept. 23, 2025
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by Stephanie Johnson & Brandon Stanton illustrated by Henry Sene Yee ‧ RELEASE DATE: July 12, 2022
A blissfully vicarious, heartfelt glimpse into the life of a Manhattan burlesque dancer.
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A former New York City dancer reflects on her zesty heyday in the 1970s.
Discovered on a Manhattan street in 2020 and introduced on Stanton’s Humans of New York Instagram page, Johnson, then 76, shares her dynamic history as a “fiercely independent” Black burlesque dancer who used the stage name Tanqueray and became a celebrated fixture in midtown adult theaters. “I was the only black girl making white girl money,” she boasts, telling a vibrant story about sex and struggle in a bygone era. Frank and unapologetic, Johnson vividly captures aspects of her former life as a stage seductress shimmying to blues tracks during 18-minute sets or sewing lingerie for plus-sized dancers. Though her work was far from the Broadway shows she dreamed about, it eventually became all about the nightly hustle to simply survive. Her anecdotes are humorous, heartfelt, and supremely captivating, recounted with the passion of a true survivor and the acerbic wit of a weathered, street-wise New Yorker. She shares stories of growing up in an abusive household in Albany in the 1940s, a teenage pregnancy, and prison time for robbery as nonchalantly as she recalls selling rhinestone G-strings to prostitutes to make them sparkle in the headlights of passing cars. Complemented by an array of revealing personal photographs, the narrative alternates between heartfelt nostalgia about the seedier side of Manhattan’s go-go scene and funny quips about her unconventional stage performances. Encounters with a variety of hardworking dancers, drag queens, and pimps, plus an account of the complexities of a first love with a drug-addled hustler, fill out the memoir with personality and candor. With a narrative assist from Stanton, the result is a consistently titillating and often moving story of human struggle as well as an insider glimpse into the days when Times Square was considered the Big Apple’s gloriously unpolished underbelly. The book also includes Yee’s lush watercolor illustrations.
A blissfully vicarious, heartfelt glimpse into the life of a Manhattan burlesque dancer.Pub Date: July 12, 2022
ISBN: 978-1-250-27827-2
Page Count: 192
Publisher: St. Martin's
Review Posted Online: July 27, 2022
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by Pamela Anderson ‧ RELEASE DATE: Jan. 31, 2023
A juicy story with some truly crazy moments, yet Anderson's good heart shines through.
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The iconic model tells the story of her eventful life.
According to the acknowledgments, this memoir started as "a fifty-page poem and then grew into hundreds of pages of…more poetry." Readers will be glad that Anderson eventually turned to writing prose, since the well-told anecdotes and memorable character sketches are what make it a page-turner. The poetry (more accurately described as italicized notes-to-self with line breaks) remains strewn liberally through the pages, often summarizing the takeaway or the emotional impact of the events described: "I was / and still am / an exceptionally / easy target. / And, / I'm proud of that." This way of expressing herself is part of who she is, formed partly by her passion for Anaïs Nin and other writers; she is a serious maven of literature and the arts. The narrative gets off to a good start with Anderson’s nostalgic memories of her childhood in coastal Vancouver, raised by very young, very wild, and not very competent parents. Here and throughout the book, the author displays a remarkable lack of anger. She has faced abuse and mistreatment of many kinds over the decades, but she touches on the most appalling passages lightly—though not so lightly you don't feel the torment of the media attention on the events leading up to her divorce from Tommy Lee. Her trip to the pages of Playboy, which involved an escape from a violent fiance and sneaking across the border, is one of many jaw-dropping stories. In one interesting passage, Julian Assange's mother counsels Anderson to desexualize her image in order to be taken more seriously as an activist. She decided that “it was too late to turn back now”—that sexy is an inalienable part of who she is. Throughout her account of this kooky, messed-up, enviable, and often thrilling life, her humility (her sons "are true miracles, considering the gene pool") never fails her.
A juicy story with some truly crazy moments, yet Anderson's good heart shines through.Pub Date: Jan. 31, 2023
ISBN: 9780063226562
Page Count: 256
Publisher: Dey Street/HarperCollins
Review Posted Online: Dec. 5, 2022
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 1, 2023
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