SECOND LIFE
Having a Child in the Digital Age
by Amanda Hess
A panoramic query into how pregnancy, birth, and motherhood have been reshaped by technology and social media.
At seven months pregnant, Hess spent an hour on an ultrasound table that became “the moment that [her] relationship with technology turned.” Her first book traces the events leading up to that moment, and then the days, weeks, and years that followed, chronicling not only her personal experience but the many—sometimes unsettling—ways that it intersects with technology. Technology, for Hess, is a behemoth, including everything from common medical equipment to menstruation-tracking phone apps to the “motherhood internet” (and its anti-natalist mirror). Each twist or milestone in the author’s story has a touchpoint with either diagnostic machinery, anonymous online message boards, data collection, or social media influencer accounts; each of those intersecting items has a history, context, and agenda related to the ideals and tensions of womanhood and society itself. Having reported on the nuances and phenomena of internet culture for the New York Times and other publications, Hess brings to her subject humility, curiosity, and a sly, self-aware wit rooted partially in her own adoption of online life. She investigates both seemingly harmless, ubiquitous advances and more fringe online movements and characters with an open thoroughness that renders her trustworthy. Her sweeping and incisive research, paired with her personal vulnerability, reveals a series of slippery slopes and potential (and existing) ethical quagmires from which no prong of technology is entirely exempt. With her distinct perspective evolving in real time, she shares a fresh and complicated take on how the particular conditions of pregnancy and motherhood stretch and thin the lines that technologies, companies, and communities walk between informing and advertising, between monitoring and surveilling, and between sharing and judging.
A captivating, charged, and crucially provocative consideration of motherhood in modern America.