Good-humored bottom-line account of the changes wrought when a successful and independent woman becomes a mother.
With the recent spate of books by primiparas on the joys and conflicts of motherhood, a new one needs a gimmick and this one has it: a brittle, comic, and sporadically insightful month-by-month record of how much baby is costing.
Novelist Howie (Snow, 1998), nearing 40 and with the father of her baby already 57, begins by asking some pertinent questions about her physical, psychological, emotional, and financial ability to bear and raise a child. The financial question is the only one she can get a grip on, and she sets up Callie's tally early in her pregnancy, including the pregnancy test ($25), amniocentesis ($81), and “fat clothes” ($411.11). Callie's debt includes a top-of-the-line McLaren stroller ($230) and a $90 car seat. It also encompasses vitamin pills for mother and baby and legal fees for setting up a will to protect Callie in case of her parents' deaths. It does not include banking the stem-cord cells that may benefit others in her family. Added in are church offerings at $5/week (the author is not religious, but she feels it's important for the baby). Callie is also charged meeting fees for her mother's Weight Watchers regimen (a part-time actress, Howie rationalizes that her post-pregnancy weight gain and subsequent lack of jobs is Callie's responsibility). More than just a spreadsheet, the financial log is also used to raise issues confronting first-time mothers today, ranging from impulse shopping to teething to returning to work and pumping breast milk. She also hits some emotional hot spots with confessions of anger, envy, and “this buried-deep, ripping . . . fear” of losing Callie. Charges to Callie for her first year: $9,099.85.
Good-humored bottom-line account of the changes wrought when a successful and independent woman becomes a mother.Pub Date: Oct. 1, 2002
ISBN: 1-58542-175-8
Page Count: 336
Publisher: TarcherPerigee
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Aug. 15, 2002
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An intriguing approach to identifying and relating to one’s emotions.
An analysis of our emotions and the skills required to understand them.
We all have emotions, but how many of us have the vocabulary to accurately describe our experiences or to understand how our emotions affect the way we act? In this guide to help readers with their emotions, Brackett, the founding director of Yale University’s Center for Emotional Intelligence, presents a five-step method he calls R.U.L.E.R.: We need to recognize our emotions, understand what has caused them, be able to label them with precise terms and descriptions, know how to safely and effectively express them, and be able to regulate them in productive ways. The author walks readers through each step and provides an intriguing tool to use to help identify a specific emotion. Brackett introduces a four-square grid called a Mood Meter, which allows one to define where an emotion falls based on pleasantness and energy. He also uses four colors for each quadrant: yellow for high pleasantness and high energy, red for low pleasantness and high energy, green for high pleasantness and low energy, and blue for low pleasantness and low energy. The idea is to identify where an emotion lies in this grid in order to put the R.U.L.E.R. method to good use. The author’s research is wide-ranging, and his interweaving of his personal story with the data helps make the book less academic and more accessible to general readers. It’s particularly useful for parents and teachers who want to help children learn to handle difficult emotions so that they can thrive rather than be overwhelmed by them. The author’s system will also find use in the workplace. “Emotions are the most powerful force inside the workplace—as they are in every human endeavor,” writes Brackett. “They influence everything from leadership effectiveness to building and maintaining complex relationships, from innovation to customer relations.”
An intriguing approach to identifying and relating to one’s emotions.Pub Date: Sept. 3, 2019
ISBN: 978-1-250-21284-9
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Celadon Books
Review Posted Online: June 22, 2019
Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 15, 2019
A vivid sequel that strains credulity.
Fremont (After Long Silence, 1999) continues—and alters—her story of how memories of the Holocaust affected her family.
At the age of 44, the author learned that her father had disowned her, declaring her “predeceased”—or dead in his eyes—in his will. It was his final insult: Her parents had stopped speaking to her after she’d published After Long Silence, which exposed them as Jewish Holocaust survivors who had posed as Catholics in Europe and America in order to hide multilayered secrets. Here, Fremont delves further into her tortured family dynamics and shows how the rift developed. One thread centers on her life after her harrowing childhood: her education at Wellesley and Boston University, the loss of her virginity to a college boyfriend before accepting her lesbianism, her stint with the Peace Corps in Lesotho, and her decades of work as a lawyer in Boston. Another strand involves her fraught relationship with her sister, Lara, and how their difficulties relate to their father, a doctor embittered after years in the Siberian gulag; and their mother, deeply enmeshed with her own sister, Zosia, who had married an Italian count and stayed in Rome to raise a child. Fremont tells these stories with novelistic flair, ending with a surprising theory about why her parents hid their Judaism. Yet she often appears insensitive to the serious problems she says Lara once faced, including suicidal depression. “The whole point of suicide, I thought, was to succeed at it,” she writes. “My sister’s completion rate was pathetic.” Key facts also differ from those in her earlier work. After Long Silence says, for example, that the author grew up “in a small city in the Midwest” while she writes here that she grew up in “upstate New York,” changes Fremont says she made for “consistency” in the new book but that muddy its narrative waters. The discrepancies may not bother readers seeking psychological insights rather than factual accuracy, but others will wonder if this book should have been labeled a fictionalized autobiography rather than a memoir.
A vivid sequel that strains credulity.Pub Date: Feb. 11, 2020
ISBN: 978-1-982113-60-5
Page Count: 352
Publisher: Gallery Books/Simon & Schuster
Review Posted Online: Oct. 20, 2019
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Nov. 15, 2019
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