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A Canadian cartoonist and writer pieces together the unspoken lives of her Chinese-born parents.

When Wong, author of a previous graphic memoir, Dear Scarlet, visited her mother, Sandy, in the hospital in 2014, she became aware of how poorly she spoke Cantonese and how disconnected she felt from her now deeply depressed mother. Determined to understand the reasons behind the distant relationships she had with both Sandy and with her emotionally absent father, Frank, the author began revisiting her past. Language was only one part of a problem: Her immigrant parents were also blue-collar working people who “weren’t around much” during her childhood. Probing further, Wong realized that the distance also had to do with the personal stories her parents had avoided telling her—e.g., about the dangerous escapes they made to Hong Kong during the Communist Revolution. Through spare, pen-and-ink images and simple language, Wong imagines Sandy and Frank's respective histories, skillfully interweaving them with strands of the life the family shared in Canada. Plunging deeper into the past, the author also imagines the lives of her mysterious paternal great-grandfather, who came to Canada early in the 20th century to “lift his family out of extreme poverty.” Despite “overwhelming racism,” exemplified by the Chinese Exclusion Act of 1923 and in forced separation from loved ones in China, her great-grandfather persisted, doing everything he could to “give his family a good life from afar.” What emerges from the fractured segments of Wong’s story is not just a poignant tale of intergenerational trauma, but also an inspiring portrait of familial dedication that embraces wisdom, grace, and love. “I am the descendant of people who stepped out into the unknown and found a way to live,” she writes. “A child of survivors, many generations back.”

A moving and heartfelt graphic memoir.